Unreal Friends

[Z-****]

I've always been extra nice to my friends, I don't understand why they don't do the same for me. I'm afraid to cut them off because then I'll be alone. One minute I'm the night in shining armour the next they're treating me like crap. A switch, something that is put on and off. I don't know what I do wrong
Nothing seems to occur to them, that they're really important to me, I'm I doing something wrong?

[su****]

I just stopped expecting and started being extra nice to myself.
Nobody knows you better than you do and you don't get dissappointed except you betray yourself.
This way you become independent and you don't have to accept your friends' behavior every time.

[Li****]

If you're feeling like your friends are not treating you well I would suggest talking to them. It could be that they are not aware of how you're feeling, and how their actions (or lack thereof) impact you.

It's also important to learn patterns about ourselves and others. If you feel like you're giving a lot and not receiving much and it's affecting you negatively, maybe give less to them. Also, we all show love and appreciation in different ways and at different capacities, so what comes naturally to you might not to your friends.

Like @suedseefrucht says, managing expectations is also a big player here to not get disappointed, and remember to do what is best for *you* 🤗