Hello

[Ha****]

Hello I’m new here.

my goal is to increase? My happiness and positivity in my life which I’m not naturally good at or comes easily. But I guess that’s why I want it so much and want to improve 

[xe****]

Welcome

[mo****]

Welcome! I think you came to the right place. I am new also, and I feel good about this. I also believe that happiness is a state of mind. Every morning when you wake up, you make a decision to be happy and positive, or not to. Whichever you choose, it will stay with you. You could change it, but I think it's easier to just start first thing. Keep it simple, don't think about it too much. And thank God for every little thing. Soon, I believe you will start having more and more things to be grateful for.

[sa****]

I read a lot of New Years Resolutions yesterday. Many said, "If you are releasing people yearly, the problem isn't the others it's you. Went to bed and woke up this morning with a sense of loneliness. Ego had crept in before I could catch it. Reminding me,"It's a New Year and you still single. You start off EVERY year single. Maybe if you pretend to be someone other than you, you MIGHT find you a man in 2020. Blah blah blah blah blah". Ego is ALWAYS trying to get me to do or be someone "I AM" not: in hopes of controlling me by controlling my emotions.

 

In 2018 I started to embrace the process of releasing my EMOTIONAL attachments to things, people, and situations. I'd experienced so many negative emotions over the years: crying, loneliness, hurt, anger, depression, etc etc etc. It was clear my choices were not working, I started searching for alternative solutions. Along the way, I discovered EVERYTHING is energy: including my emotions. I learned every emotion I feel is felt within me first, then transmitted without. Eventually these emotions manifests as my current life situations. I took a closer look at my life, and saw clear examples, along my journey, where my thoughts and emotions are, in fact, energy vibrations that manifested into my reality.

 

I started letting go of old belief systems: it was clear they weren't working for "Me". I let go of belief's that NO longer served "Me". I OWNED the fact that I had allowed my thoughts and emotions to have their way with "Me". I admitted to "Self" that what I feel has NO-THING to do with anyone or anything outside of "Me": those are simply excuses used by me to play the role of victim! I looked at who I had become and was stunned to discover, I wasn't "BE-ING" true to "my-SELF". Why would I do this to me-aka-self?

 

I was faced with the reality that I had LOST control of "me-SELF". I have no recollection of when this actually occurred. Far back as I can recall I had NEVER really been in control of "me-SELF". Thoughts and emotions were ALL I'd ever known. I'd never questions where the thoughts OR emotions came from: they'd always, kinda just, existed. These thoughts and emotions were who "I" was. Every event in my life, from conception, until 2018 was who "I" knew as "me-SELF". Yet, I stilled questioned, "Why would I do this to "me-SELF"'? "I" knew who "I" was. "I" was born February 4th. "I" was baptized twice. "I" lost my virginity. "I" fell in love. "I" got my heart broken. "I had a baby". "I" fell in love again. "I" got my heart broken again. "I" am a mother. "I" am a student. "I" am a graduate. "I" am an employee. "I" am a business owner. I KNEW who I was! Why the question, why'd I do this to "me-SELF"? Who is "me-SELF"? I had allowed thoughts and emotions to roam freely and these TWO were who "I" became.

 

"I" is my alter "Ego". When decisions are made, I say "I" made them. "I" will buy a house! (Thought) "I" felt excited at closing! (Emotion) "I" can't wait to get married! (Thought) "I" met my soul-mate, "I" love him! (Emotion). "I" will lose 10lbs (Thought) "I" am ecstatic, "I" lost 70lbs! (Emotion). "I" thought he loved me. (Thought) "I" feel depressed! (Emotion). I don't know if this will work. (Thought) I knew it wouldn't work, "NOW" I am angry (Emotion). Over time, thoughts became negative because "I" was NOW identified with things, people, and situations. "I" understood it controlled emotions and "me-SELF" was no where to be found. "I" began to either live in the past or future: it's how "I" controlled emotions. Needless to say, where ever thoughts go, emotions flows. Whenever "I" felt like it was losing control, "I" would re-live past situations. It's purpose? To evoke emotions: like loneliness, hurt, anger, and depression as distractions, in order to keep It's control over "emotions". What I found most interesting was that "I" would also use future thoughts as controlling mechanisms as well; thoughts like: When I get a better job (future Thought), It will feel good to be able to afford a house (future Emotion). When I lose 70 (future Thought), I will feel better wearing nicer clothes and traveling to different countries (future Emotion). When I feel better, (future Thought), I'll spend more time, having fun, with my family (future Emotion). I literally pinched myself to make sure "I" was not actually doing the thinking. "I" would NEVER expose itself and risk losing control. So, where were these "NEW" thoughts coming from? Could it be there's more to the question of "Who is me-SELF"?

 

DING DING DING: the lights came on upstairs (laughing). "I" is not "me-SELF". "I" is ego. It's simply my thoughts combined with my emotions in every moment in time. After all, I AM ALWAYS thinking, AM I not? Which means there is ALWAYS an emotional flow for every thought I have. Wow, this was so exciting for "Me"! I stumbled across an amazing discovery. I learned "I" wasn't "me-SELF". As quickly as the bulb lit it up, quickly dimmed once again! I had a fleetly thought: this is the definition of Polarity. Lit = Dim. As quickly as the thought came, it receded and the question it-self remained: If "I" am "Ego" and NOT emotions, who in the world is me-SELF?

 

But wait! What was the quick fleeting thought "I" had about polarity? Something about:

 

Lit = Dim.

 

Could polarity apply to "I" and "me-SELF" as well? Why NOT? Isn't everything polarity? Hot=Cold, Sick=Well, Poor=Rich, Sad=Happy, White=Black.

 

"I" ego = me-"SELF"

 

"I" = "me"

 

"Ego" = "Self"

 

Holy shit! I excited yelled, could "me-SELF" be my EMOTIONS?! Could me-SELF control thoughts? Wouldn't that still equate to polarity? Ego loosening it's negative grips on emotions and emotions consciously radiating positive feelings back Ego in return.

 

WOW: "I" ego and me-"SELF" both occupying the same body, MINE! "I" ego was in control and NOW me-"SELF" has awakened and joined "I" ego within. Does this means there are more at play NOW that "me-SELF" has consciously re-joined "I"? I couldn't help it, I felt butterflies in the pit of my stomach. "I" had an emotional reaction at the though of "SELF" being an equally opposing force to "EGO". Is this the Inner Battle all the GREAT Enlightened Masters eluded to? The battle between I and ME = EGO and SELF! Good and Evil, Right and wrong, sickness and health, weak and strong, poverty and wealth. If there is a battle, who wins? I AM thinking that depends on where "I" choose to focus both my thoughts and emotions............

[Li****]

Welcome to happiness! What a great goal to try and increase happiness and positivity, I think that's a great foundation to create a healthy life and mindset ✨ I hope you feel as inspired as I do by the replies in this thread ?? ?