Raising children

[su****]

Like I said in my introduction, I'm a pretty pensive type of person and even though I don't have children yet, I'm thinking about the best way to raise them.

This is a very complex topic, because the smallest things can influence a child strongly.

 

My thoughts so far:

 

A child should be loved and be given appreciation, because this way it can build up self-confidence.

But a child should not be given too much appreciation and attention, so it will learn patience, independence and respect.

So where to draw the line?

 

Another big topic in my mind is TV time / display time / internet time.

Should there be a limited media time or not?

As a child, I was given 90 min. a day for PC and TV together. School stuff didn't count.

But when my parents wasn't checking the time or when they went out, I took all the media time I could get.

So is it really useful to limit the time?

How would children behave without a limit? Maybe they would use media stuff all day long or maybe they would get bored and do something else by themselves.

So maybe learning and undestanding by doing something is more effective than a rule?

 

Pocket money is a topic, my parents handled pretty good, I guess.

Half of the pocket money was a save income.But for the other half I had to do weekly household jobs. So I learned, you have to work for your money.

Later my parents acted as my bank, so I could deposit money and get interest charges. This motivated me to learn math in order to calculate how long it would take to double my money.

 

I would love to read some of your thoughts, opinions and experiences.

[Bj****]

love how your parents handled the pocket money part! will consider this ;)

[Po****]

Just give them your time and show them love. Validate their feelings, use tough love to teach them strength, and empower them with confidence when they feel they can't achieve. Instill a positive mind set, and lead by example.

[su****]

19 minutes ago, PollyWaffles11 said:

use tough love to teach them strength

What's tough love?